All couples argue every now and then. When the arguments become frequent and more intense, it may be time to seek help. Here are a few ways to tell when it’s time to find a professional to intervene.
When It’s Time for Help
If you are in a relationship where arguments are starting over silly things (such as laundry or dishes), then there is probably a bigger underlying issue. Anytime violence, whether emotional or physical, is brought in to the picture help is needed. Some other signs are radical changes in behavior, loss of communication, lack of sex, or just general misery. If you are in any of these categories it’s time to find some help.
Where to Find Help
Relationship is available in many different forms. If money is an issue, you may be able to seek assistance from clergy. Most churches offer some type of spiritual counseling for little or no money. This will only benefit both of you if you are both active in the religious community.
Many therapists will also work on a sliding scale. So finding a qualified therapist shouldn’t be difficult. If you have health insurance, call them to see if mental health is covered, and at what capacity.
What to Avoid
Unless your best friend also happens to be a marriage counselor, avoid asking them for help. Friends and family can make great sounding boards, but are typically lousy therapists. Also don’t ask for help from anyone your partner is uncomfortable with unless you want to make the situation worse.
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